Dating married but separated men
If you have begun dating a separated man, you need to be sure that you both want the same things for your future together.
Before you begin dating a separated man, get a clear definition of his current relationship with his wife.
We started talking, then texting, and he told me straight-up that he'd been separated for six months. I would text him something funny to start off the day, and we would spend the majority of the day talking about what made each other tick. We shared the little things, the childhood things, the adult things, the big things.
That was my first mistake, especially since I hadn't been in the dating game since Tinder even existed. He also said his mind was made up and he'd moved on. We connected and spent a few hours sipping beer and chatting. Him: married, seperated from the woman he had been with for more than eight years, with whom he shared a son.
It's safe to assume that most people can present themselves in a way that looks normal on Tinder. We then went out with friends, which was followed by beer and then going home. Me: slogging forward while missing my life in Oregon. He also loved making plans that he had no intention of following through on. Maybe it was the night that he texted me, "Home with the ex and baby tonight. It was the way I wondered if they were sharing a bed.
If he is evasive or is hesitant to be forthcoming, that could indicate that he is hiding information about the status of his marriage. This means that he and his wife have filed their separation in court. If he is not legally separated and is sharing a household with his spouse, he may not be separated at all.
Be sure that he intends for his relationship with his spouse to be over.
Knowing what you want can be a key factor in whether dating a separated man can work for you.